Yesterday, in the New York Times, there was an article about "pregnancy reductions," wherein twins, triplets, etc. are, by means of abortion, reduced to only one or two children: "Losing some fetuses for the sake of others". Allow me to extract pieces from the article. The article will appear in This text and my comment in Bold The full article can be found here
The article starts off with the story of a woman, known only to us as Jenny:
As Jenny lay on the obstetrician’s examination table, she was grateful that the ultrasound tech had turned off the overhead screen. She didn’t want to see the two shadows floating inside her. Hmm I wonder why? Since making her decision, she had tried hard not to think about them, though she could often think of little else. She was 45 and pregnant after six years of fertility bills, ovulation injections, donor eggs and disappointment You poor, poor woman... — and yet here she was, 14 weeks into her pregnancy, choosing to extinguish one of two healthy fetuses, almost as if having half an abortion. As the doctor inserted the needle into Jenny’s abdomen, aiming at one of the fetuses, Jenny tried not to flinch, caught between intense relief and intense guilt. I wonder why the guilt? It's just a blob of tissue, right? Not like it's actually a child, which you've tried for so long to conceive.
“Things would have been different if we were 15 years younger or if we hadn’t had children already or if we were more financially secure,” she said later. Excuses, excuses. Buck up Missy, accept the results of your own actions. Show some damn maturity. You knew this could happen! It's an extremely common result when you're on fertility medications. “If I had conceived these twins naturally, I wouldn’t have reduced this pregnancy, because you feel like if there’s a natural order, then you don’t want to disturb it. But we created this child in such an artificial manner — in a test tube, choosing an egg donor, having the embryo placed in me — and somehow, making a decision about how many to carry seemed to be just another choice. The pregnancy was all so consumerish to begin with, and this became yet another thing we could control.” Why would it be different if it was natural? Certainly not because you feel there's a certain sanctity to these things!? After all, babies are just commodities. Ma'am, the fact that you feel even the tiniest bit of guilt deep down in your ill-formed, very well-ignored conscience proves there is something inherently wrong with what you just did. And how will you feel about this child once it is born? will it be just another commodity then, too? When it cries at 2:00 am, will you want to return it?
For all its successes, reproductive medicine has produced a paradox: in creating life where none seemed possible, doctors often generate more fetuses than they intend. Maybe we should get doctors out of the business of "creating life", and leave that to God? Afterall, it is kind of his specialty. In the mid-1980s, they devised an escape hatch to deal with these megapregnancies, terminating all but two or three fetuses to lower the risks to women and the babies they took home. Sick. But what began as an intervention for extreme medical circumstances has quietly become an option for women carrying twins. Kind of like what happened with divorce? Or contraception? Or "regular" abortion? Anybody else spot a depraved pattern here? With that, pregnancy reduction shifted from a medical decision to an ethical dilemma. We still have to work out just how far we’re willing to go to construct the lives we want. The answer: way too damn far.
Jenny’s decision to reduce twins to a single fetus was never really in doubt. The idea of managing two infants at this point in her life terrified her. She and her husband already had grade-school-age children, and she took pride in being a good mother. She felt that twins would soak up everything she had to give, leaving nothing for her older children. Even the twins would be robbed, because, at best, she could give each one only half of her attention and, she feared, only half of her love. Cop. Out. Suck it up. It's your own damn fault anyways. And if you can't love your kids equally, you shouldn't be having kids in the first place. Besides, there's a difference between paying attention to your kids and loving them. Sure, you may not be able to pay as much attention to your older ones as you may want, but that doesn't mean they'll start to think you don't love them. Or, in fact, that you don't love them.
She and her husband worked out this moral calculation on their own, and they intend to never tell anyone about it. Jenny is certain that no one, not even her closest friends, would understand, and she doesn’t want to be the object of their curiosity or feel the sting of their judgment. Why would they be judging you if you didn't do anything that everybody knows is inherently disordered? Indeed why would you feel shameful and try to hide it if you didn't to something you know is terrible. You, ma'am, know you did something wrong, and are now paying the price: guilt. Reminds me of a certain bible story where two young folks tried to hide themselves from God when they did wrong..
What is it about terminating half a twin pregnancy that seems more controversial than reducing triplets to twins or aborting a single fetus? Nothing, they both make me want to throw up. After all, the math’s the same either way: one fewer fetus. Aha, Now it's just math! Perhaps it’s because twin reduction (unlike abortion) involves selecting one fetus over another, when either one is equally wanted. Perhaps it’s our culture’s idealized notion of twins as lifelong soul mates, two halves of one whole.No no no no no. Dear God, NO! It's the fact that there is absolutely NO reasonable excuse for aborting just one twin. You can hide behind any number of excuses for abortion, but everybody knows that aborting multiple fetuses, yet leaving one, is an ultimate act of selfishness. It is staring God in the face and giving him the middle finger. Especially after trying to have kids for years, people recognize that you're just a self-centered bitch. That's all there is to it there.
Even some people who support abortion rights admit to feeling queasy about reduction to a singleton. “I completely respect and support a woman’s choice,” one commentator wrote on UrbanBaby.com, "Something about that whole situation just seemed unethical to me,” the commentator continued. “I just couldn't sleep at night knowing that I terminated my daughter’s perfectly healthy twin brother.” Even the disordered conscience recognizes there is something deeply wrong with this...
I'm not going to pick apart the whole article, it takes up 11 pages on Microsoft Word. I think you can get the feel from what you just read. It sickens me. I honestly feel physically sick reading this. What has happened to our society such that some people now feel okay with terminating half of their children. One can logically see some merit to the arguments in favor of abortion rights. Not that they're necessarily logical reasons, but one can understand the appeal of that line of thinking. Yet, even many abortion supporters quoted in this article feel uneasy with "pregnancy reduction." Doctors who routinely preform abortions often refuse to reduce pregnancies below twins. Which makes me wonder who the HELL these women think they are to do this.
I think a part of it is that it's a semi reception of the precious gift of life. Instead of an outright rejection of Life, it's a person saying, " thank you God for this precious gift of Life that we've been trying so hard for for so long. However, we really only wanted one, so we're gonna kill these others. Thanks again, God!"
This angers me. It honestly scared me how upset and angry I became when I read this story. I haven't been this upset in a long, long time. Maybe ever. It is taking all of my self-control not to throw something heavy across my gameroom as I write this. I don't think Christ would mind this though. I think this is the kind of righteous anger He felt when he trashed the Temple markets. That makes me feel a little bit better about myself, actually.
However we may feel, let us pray to our Immaculate Mother for the souls of these poor children and of their ungrateful parents. That they may come to see the great blessing that their children are and that they may come to a fuller understanding of the saving Love of Jesus Christ. Amen
A little video for ya. To end on a lighter note.
A little video for ya. To end on a lighter note.